Patrick Brinksma

We live in a time where we more and more connect with people without actually meeting them in person. At least at first. When we ‘meet’ people online we create an image of them inside of us. If we resonate with that person online, we even create a more perfect image of them by focusing on positive aspects of that person complemented by positive aspects we like to see in others. But what happens then is interesting. We give the responsibility to live up to that image to that person, without any form of notification. And that is were it goes wrong.

It’s NOT their responsibility to live up to that image, it’s your own responsibility to stay focused on that positive image you created to attract the positive aspects you see and want to see. And that takes alignment with who you really are, not with who you think that person is. What we tend to do after a while is to focus on something which we perceive as negative, and blame the person (internally) for not living up to the image we created. Especially when we meet them in person. We run a sort of comparison check on that person to see if he or she is still living up to the image we created. As if we are looking for something to criticize, as if we can not believe that person can really live up to the image we created. Why do we do that? What’s the benefit? Is it driven by a lack of trust? Whatever it is, it is our choice to look at that person that way.

Next time, choose to look at the person as he or she really is. Don’t be confused by the identity put forward, but see through that and focus on who that person really is, a unique Source creation.

Namasté.