Patrick Brinksma

Last year I wrote “Being selfish is good as long as the intention is selfish.”, and I still hold this as my truth. Today I want to take it a step further by stating that every action is a selfish one. What I mean by that is that everything you do is to somehow feel better in that moment, whether the action is aligned with your true self or not.

It underlines our preferred and natural state of being which is to feel good. We act upon this knowing all day, every day. If we feel shy or ashamed we want to run and hide because we know this will make us feel better in that moment and more importantly in that state of being. If we are truly happy and feel good we choose our actions according to that moment and state of being. But despite which end of the stick you are in this moment, you choose your actions to make you feel better.

This idea that every action is to improve oneself might sound contradictory to what people might tell you. They explain that everything they do is out of pure unselfishness. They even might want you to believe that they have sacrificed their own well-being to serve others out of an act of love. But the underlying intention of all of that is to feel better. And there is nothing wrong with that, except to deny it.

I understand that if someone is in a place of disempowerment that their actions can be harmful to others. But the people who feel hurt – the victims - are in a vibrational place which match the vibration of disempowerment, otherwise they wouldn’t get – or feel – hurt. I know this is hard to understand for some of you, but both victim and offender attract each other in their lives, and all of their actions are selfish ones trying to make them feel better in that moment and that state of being.

If you recognize that everything you do is an act of selfishness, you are in a position to take responsibility and be in a state of being which allows you to align your actions first with the loving being that you are. You will be able to follow your bliss, be your true self, enjoy your vortex and be the example for others who will be seeing you as the bright shining light in their life. You will be the catalyst for them and allow them to expand and follow their bliss.

Enjoy your selfish actions but act from a place of love.